Out with the old and in with the new!
I have recently noted that just as our Wedding Anniversary is approaching we seem to have one, two, and (sometimes) three arguments. Having an argument a week or three days before your anniversary is a real let-down. However I would not trade in any of those arguments for anything else that could happen in a marriage. Such as infidelity, mental or physical abuse, emotional infidelity, your spouse telling you that he/she doesn’t love you anymore and wants a divorce. I know that this may seem strange to some, but I truly believe that these arguments are meant to happen, especially at this time.
I can not exactly tell you when or how we developed into placing some of our problems/issues under a rock and then proclaiming that we had reached a resolution to the problem/issue. I discovered the reason why we did this was because we did not want to admit to our self or to each other that we were deficient in any way. Instead of grasping a hold of the deficiencies and fear of having them, we just placed them under that familiar rock. We would both agree that the issue was resolved until in an argument we were met with the same “buzz” words that were so commonly associated with “THE RESOLVED ISSUE”, much to the surprise of both of us we finally realized that this time we had only one choice and that was to face the deficiencies in our self and in our relationship, so that we could make things right.
I now see those arguments as an “airing out” if you will. Now when our anniversary day comes I have a great sense of wholeness with myself and in our relationship that is coupled with a feeling of a new beginning. We have developed the right tools in which we can now take our relationship even higher than we could have imagined!
For me our anniversary day doesn’t just represent the number of years that we have been married to each other, but rather the number of years that we have been building a relationship with one another. I now view our anniversary as a ringing out of the old and a ringing in of the new… what an exciting feeling that is!
Thank you LJN for loving me unconditionally for 36 years!
"Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not boast, It is not proud." I Corinthians 13:4.
Photos - Grass Rock & Cloud Frame by Trish @ Through the Viewfinder
***Additional Photos - Courtesy of TLJN Archives